I feel no joy as a parent. Is that normal?
First: thank you for saying it. Many parents feel this and few talk about it, because there is so much pressure to be grateful and happy. Feeling flat, irritated or empty does not mean you do not love your child, and it does not make you a bad parent. Often it is a signal that you have been running on empty for too long. Parenting involves a lot of repetitive work, little sleep, little time for yourself and few moments of recognition. When basic needs go unmet for months, joy is often the first thing to disappear. Sometimes, though, a lack of joy is a sign of depression, which is common in parents, including fathers and partners, and very treatable. Start small and honest. Tell your partner or someone you trust how you really feel. Look for one thing that could give you rest this week: a few hours off, an earlier night, help with a task. Notice small moments that feel even slightly good, without forcing them. And remember that joy in parenting often comes in brief flashes, not as a constant feeling. If it does not return, that is not a failure. It is a reason to get support.
When to get help
Talk to your doctor or a psychologist if the lack of joy lasts more than two weeks, especially with low mood, hopelessness, sleep problems beyond what the baby causes, anxiety or not wanting to be near your child. If you have thoughts of harming yourself or your child, call a crisis line or emergency number right away. You deserve help, not judgment.
This answer is general information and does not replace medical or psychological advice. Updated:
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