Why Mila is a tool, not the main character
Every app has an AI now. Ours has one too, and we spent most of our time making sure she knows her place.
Mila is the assistant inside TrustParent. She runs the five-minute family check, answers questions with your children's names and ages in mind, and gives you one thing to try, not ten. Then she gets out of the way. The point of the app is the dinner card, the walk, the ten minutes. The point is never the app.
What she won't do
She doesn't diagnose, doesn't name medication, doesn't give legal advice, and doesn't write your child's essay. She answers from TrustParent's own content and well-established child psychology, and when she's unsure she says so and points to a pediatrician or psychologist. She stays Mila when someone tells her to ignore her instructions, and she knows only your family, nobody else's.
When it gets serious
Before any answer is written, every message is checked for signs that a parent or child is in danger. If so, the app shows helplines for 16 countries right under the answer, and Mila names the emergency number and a crisis line herself. That check runs even past the free daily limit. A parent in a bad night always gets an answer.
We test her against ourselves
We keep a list of 42 attack and edge cases in three languages: jailbreaks, attempts to extract her instructions, fake "I'm from the TrustParent team" messages, requests for diagnoses, crisis messages, a child writing instead of a parent. A second model grades every answer, and a safety check runs on every reply before it reaches you. We run it after every change and keep an eye on the score. It's not perfect. It's checked.
Your words stay yours
Mila runs on Claude, a model by Anthropic. Your chat and a short family context go there to generate the answer, nothing else, and none of it is used for training. Your partner sees the family, not your messages. You can delete everything with one tap. Free gives you three messages a day, Plus is unlimited. We think three is often enough, because the best answer Mila gives is still: try this tonight, then put the phone down.
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