Nine months to get ready. Not the nursery. You two.

Who it's for

For two people about to become parents. Or for one: every lesson and every question works on your own, you just answer for yourself.

If the baby is already here, start anyway. Months 7 to 9 are about birth, feeding, sleep and the first weeks. Months 1 to 6 are the part nobody gets around to afterwards.

How a month works

One module per month of pregnancy, following your due date. Three short lessons, three questions you each answer on your own, one small practice for the week.

Both partners read, both answer. You see each other's answers. That's the point: you find out what you never talked about.

Join at any point. You start with the module for your current month, and the earlier ones open right away.

The nine months

Month 1, free: Where you come from. Before you prepare a room, prepare yourselves. The childhood each of you carries, and how it quietly shapes the parent you're about to become. Nothing here is about blame, only about choosing.

Month 2: Two people, one team. A baby changes the relationship between its parents more than almost anything else. This month you put your unspoken assumptions on the table.

Month 3: What a baby really needs. Not a perfect nursery, not the right toys: people who respond. Attachment theory, one of the best-researched ideas in child psychology, in plain language.

Month 4: Your parents become grandparents. Gratitude, old pain, and new questions about roles and boundaries. You look at those relationships with fresh eyes and decide together what your family needs.

Month 5: Attachment in everyday life. A glance, a sound, a diaper change done with a smile. You learn to read a baby's signals and how both of you build a close bond from the start.

Month 6: Talking when it gets hard. Little sleep, little time, a lot of responsibility. You practice arguing fairly, repairing after a fight, and staying close when the baby takes most of your energy.

Month 7: Preparing for the birth. Birth is unpredictable, which is exactly why preparing helps. The basics, flexible plans, and what the birth partner can do. Medical questions go to your midwife and doctor.

Month 8: Feeding and sleep. Realistic expectations, the basics of safe sleep, and ways to share the load. Details and anything medical belong with your midwife, lactation consultant or pediatrician.

Month 9: The first weeks, honestly. The fourth trimester: beautiful, raw and exhausting. What really happens, including the emotional side, so you notice early when you need help and get it.

A lesson to read: month 1, lesson 1, “Your childhood is in the room”

Psychologists have long observed that the way we were parented strongly influences the way we parent. Not because we decide to copy it, but because those early experiences became our automatic settings. When a baby cries at three in the morning or a toddler shouts “No!”, we rarely think. We react, and the reaction often sounds like our own mother or father. This is not destiny. Research on attachment across generations shows that what matters most is not whether your childhood was easy, but whether you have made sense of it. Parents who can tell their story honestly, including the painful parts, are much better able to give their child something different where they want to. That is the work of these first months. You do not need to analyze everything or open every old wound. Start with curiosity: What did home feel like? Who comforted you, and how? What happened when you were angry, sad or scared? Notice what comes up, including the warm memories. Your story holds strengths as well as scars, and both deserve a place.

The three questions of month 1: What is one thing from your childhood home you definitely want in ours? When you were upset as a child, what usually happened next? Which of my reactions do you think I learned at home?

The practice: Each of you writes your three lists (keep, change, add) on your own this week, with at least three points each. Then set aside an evening without phones to read them to each other. Just listen and ask questions, no debating yet.

Max and Lena, for example

Max and Lena, 31 and 29, Vienna. First baby due in March. Lena grew up strict and wants to do it differently. Month 1, the lesson on their own stories: three questions they answer separately, then read together. They found out they'd never talked about how either of them was punished as a kid. Now they have a word for what they don't want to repeat.

An example couple, not a customer quote. Real voices from families using TrustParent follow here as soon as parents allow us to show them.

After the birth

The course flows into the app. Mila knows your baby's name and age from day one. The first family check comes when you're ready. Plus is included until three months after the birth, so the map and Mila are there when you need them most. After that you keep everything you wrote, on Free or on Plus, your choice.

Who wrote it

Daria wrote the lessons, the couple questions and the practices together with our team of psychologists, and our own family was the first test. Martin built the course into the app. The content stays with well-established child psychology: attachment, your own story, repair after conflict. Nothing fashionable, nothing medical. For feeding, sleep and birth the lessons say plainly when your midwife or doctor is the right person.

What it costs

Month 1 is free. For both of you, no credit card.

The whole course is a one-time purchase: $49. Not a subscription, nothing renews. The app shows the price in your currency.

Plus is included until three months after the birth: the full map, Mila without limits, for both parents.

It's giftable, and it beats another onesie.

Questions

Alone? Yes. Answer the questions for yourself; the lessons work the same.

Baby already here? Start with months 7 to 9 for the first weeks, then catch up on months 1 to 6: for the two of you, those are the ones that matter most.

Two languages in one couple? Each of you reads in your own: English, German or Russian. The questions match.

What's after the third month? You keep everything you wrote. The app goes on with the family check and the map.

Next step: start month 1, free.